This is a lot about alternative childcare (not a parent) for working parents. We've had to find babysitters for Date Night, but nothing longer than a few hours once a month or so. I don't know how parents find daycare. I have no insight, tips, or know-how. This article seems to have good info on what to look for in a daycare provider.
When we're looking for a babysitter, convenience has been a high priority. Thankfully, we've had high school (now college & beyond) girls living next door. They've been great sitters. Now, my sister is living with us, and she's a great babysitter.
I used to leave long detailed notes about bedtime, cuddling, snacks, etc. to make sure everything was done "the right way." Now, I'm just happy to get out of the house. It doesn't matter to me if the kids get Kix and raisins for dinner instead of the pasta I got ready. Or if they missed brushing their teeth because they fell asleep watching a movie. Those things don't happen all the time, and I trust our sitters.
We do try to provide consistency between Mom & Dad (and Auntie). In fact, I feel like we work hard to be consistent. It doesn't seem easy to always respond to situations the same way.
- Jeremy has given me details about his bath & bedtime routine.
- Maybe we need to figure out a set of guidelines about using "Time Out" or "A Break."
- Feeding seems to be pretty consistent.
- Media rules are clearly defined (no TV before lunch).
- Pick up before you take out more toys.
- Put dirty dishes in the sink.
- Put dirty clothes in the laundry.
- Hang up coats. Put away shoes, hats, etc.